I was taking a class the other day and the woman began by leading a visualization exercise. It was not an unusual exercise and one I both do with my clients and myself regularly.
As she guided us to relax into the vision we hold of our dreams and future she asked a question that has stayed with me ever since.
She asked, “what do you need to let go of to allow this desire to come true?”
It stuck with me and I feel maybe you can relate?
As aware as I am, it hadn’t really occurred to me that I may be one of my own obstacles. I mean, I know we all have limiting beliefs and stuff, but I hadn’t really thought of one of the hurdles I was stumbling over might be my own holding onto something that is not in my future.
This idea shows up in so many teachings. The sayings ‘you cannot learn to swim if you’re holding onto the side of the pool’, ‘you will never reach great destinations if you don’t leave the shore’ and many more.
I look at my own mindset regularly, but this goes deeper.
I recently recorded an Out Of The Box episode on this very topic from the other side. I’m often so focused on what I do today to step into my future vision, but I rarely think about so clearly about what I do today that prevents my tomorrow.
So here it is in play – I’m writing this book right (yes, the one you are probably sick of hearing about by now) and on any given day I think it is totally brilliant or complete trash. On the days I feel it’s brilliant, I reach higher for things out of my comfort zone and you can imagine how much sabotaging I do on the other days.
It is clear to me that in order to allow myself to step into the future I see, I have to let go of the fear and doubt.
Here’s the thing, it sounds easy and simple – and it is. It is also hard and complex. You see some of the things we need to let go of to walk into our bright future may not be in our highest, greatest good but they are comfortable.
It’s pretty sad for me to admit but it is comfortable for me to feel doubt and uncomfortable to step into being brilliant! There are a whole bunch of reasons for this but until I address each one, you can bet I’m standing between where I want to be and where I am now. Holding onto these stories and feelings prevents me from leaning into the possibility of what could be, dare I say, brilliant.
I have the power to hold myself back or step into the awesome future I have before me.
I have begun to work through this a little at a time and it’s amazing the doors that are opening up for me. It is kind of weird in an awesome way! It tells me that I am on the right track and as these fears and doubts reveal themselves (and I’m sure there will be many) I simply need to address and move through them on my way to where I wish to be.
So as you see how I am working through this process myself, I ask you, what are you holding onto that is not part of your future?
What is something anchoring you in the present that is preventing you from being able to move forward into the future you see for yourself?
Let’s move into the new year free of the stories, doubts and fears that keep us from that beautiful vision we have of what our lives can be. Lift that anchor that holds us in place so we can set sail to our destiny.