I’m going to be honest with you all, I’ve been having a bit of a tough time lately. Yes, even Life Coaches have their days or weeks when things are just in a funk. It is not that there is one specific thing that is wonky for me, just a bit of everything all over the place.
I recognize that this feeling has come up before and it often occurs when I am working on a major transition, namely a move to another country. So good news, I am aware of what likely kicked it off. I also have the benefit of knowing it is not something that will last and I know I have been here before and I moved through it. Knowing this is great, however it doesn’t change the feeling of unease and general funk.
What To Do?
In the past I have dealt with this type of feeling in a very active way. As some of you know, my mother was never one for coddling us girls, she was more of a “pull up your boots and get on with it” type of woman. So, with all the grace and gentleness of a bull I have usually just plowed through my days just doing everything I needed to do to get to the other side.
There are many benefits to handling life and its challenges this way. First, you get a heck of a lot done because you are working so hard at getting through “it” you are like a freight train at top speed. While moving so fast to get through the days that will land you on the other side, often times additional things get swept to the side and left unnoticed by the side of the road. Trust me, not dealing with those items today does not mean they won’t pop up again (usually at a most inconvenient time)!
A Different Approach
Today I’ve been focusing more on just being. Sitting with the feeling of funk, trying not to label it good or bad, just observing and feeling (even the stuff that just sucks to feel) and letting it teach me what I need to learn so I may move through it.
This is not easy for me by any stretch. I’m an action person in all senses of the word. I like to move and create and that requires me to do stuff.
I am finding though that by sitting with things – even the wonky things, there is much to be gained. By allowing the feelings to wash through me and journaling, I can sometimes hear the message in the mess.
These times cause me to get out of my head and stop plowing through my “to-do” list and listen to the world around me. I’ve realized that sometimes (I know this will come as a surprise to you) I am so busy moving forward I’m not looking at where I am or not paying enough attention to those around me.
Being in a funk always slows me down and brings me from my head to my emotions. It’s in these moments that I can be open to the possibilities that although something might not be going as I wished, that doesn’t mean it is not going the way it needs to go.
When I stop rushing, running and doing and begin to just observe what is going on around me there is opportunity to receive. When I slow I create more peace and I can often begin to see what would have just been a blur had I been trying to push through to get to the other side.
Where Are You Today?
So I encourage you to take stock of where you are today. Yes, we are midway through the year, so review where you stand for your goals this year, and then just sit with the information.
Don’t rush out to make a plan to make up for lost time or set about 10Xing your next six months, just sit with the information from your review. Spend some time in meditation and maybe a walk on the beach and see if there is information that comes to you about where you are.
You might just reinvigorate your desire to pursue this goal and come up with a great new idea, or you might find that the Universe has been trying to tell you something but you were moving so fast that you couldn’t see the sign.