I often speak about how important mindset is to reaching your dreams, or living the life you desire. The truth is, we are all not naturally good at this trait and often times need some assistance in this area.
I work with clients that sometimes seem afraid to tell me what they are really dreaming about – however I quickly explain, I’m pretty useless to them if we don’t get this part out in the open. After a few nervous giggles, I usually hear the deep, dark, beautiful vision they hope for.
Frequently, this reveal is immediately followed by all the reasons they can’t reach their dream and how silly the desire is.
Or worse, I am provided a calculated “safe” description of a dream which is usually a far cry from what the person really wants.
The problem is not that we aim too high and don’t achieve it. It is that we aim too low and reach it.
When we do finally get the real idea/vision/dream out in the open we then have to tackle to stories surrounding why they believe it’s not possible to achieve their desire. This is an extremely important part of the process to address the stories we tell ourselves because you can’t just plow through them (I know, I’ve tried!) because you will sabotage yourself down the road.
Time to get out your pen
The stories we tell ourselves that declare a goal is unachievable, or worse, silly to reach for, must be rewritten. The stories must be identified and rewritten with you as the hero or heroine and creator of your achievement. This is a crucial portion of the process.
Once you can see your goal realized and yourself as the one that can bring this dream to a reality two very important things happen. You have tried it on for size in your imagination and you sometimes find out, you really actually don’t want it. Or you have just set yourself up for success.
The belief that you can accomplish – or not accomplish something is critical to the results.
If you think you can or cannot do it, either way you are correct.
When you understand and fully identify and accept that you are capable of great things, you create great things. You begin to think in the way of possibilities and overcoming obstacles. This doesn’t mean the obstacles don’t show up, they are simply not show stoppers anymore because you have belief that it is possible for you to achieve your desire.
You seek your way around an obstacle when you believe there must be a way. You will look for other possibilities to overcome this obstacle. You will become curious to figure out what this obstacle is trying to tell you, you will assume there is a reason for it and the reason is not to stop you but to tell you something. The biggest gift of your new belief system is the power of perspective – it will change when you look for a message.
Belief is your superpower.
Cheerleaders always ramp up with positive “you can do it” type cheers when the odds are down and against their team. This is not to be cruel, it is to feed the team and the spectators the belief that what they are seeking is possible. Can you imagine a cheerleading squad coming out in the Patriot’s 4th quarter of the Super Bowl saying, “Too bad, so sad, you tried, let’s go home” as a cheer? Heck no! And we do know how that amazing game ended…
When you have belief that you can accomplish what you desire, you are unstoppable. If you don’t have belief, but really want to make your dream come true, find someone who believes in you and borrow their belief until yours comes along!
There have been many times when I have seen incredible potential in a client that they have not seen in themselves. It is at this point I ask them to trust me, that I know it is within them. It doesn’t take long before a few items on their path to success get crossed off and they begin to see what I see. It is ok to borrow someone’s belief in you until you strengthen the muscle within you and begin to feel the possibility.
So think about what you believe is possible for yourself. Then question those beliefs and challenge if they are truly as big and bold as what is truly possible for you.
I do believe if you can dream something, you can achieve it. I also am a firm believer that you are not given a dream you cannot achieve. So come on, what are you waiting for?
I’ve got extra belief to spare if you decide you need a hand getting started. I believe in your dreams, do you?